Tips for Public Speaking

It is often said that most people are less afraid of death than public speaking. Most people hate speaking in front of a crowd. Why is that? Mainly, it's because we realize, rightly, that since there are many people watching us, what we do will be remembered by many people. We take a risk when we speak in front of people. It is a risk, but that does not mean you shouldn't do it. Some people like being in front of people, others don't. I happen to enjoy it. And while I'm no expert about public speaking, here are some points that help me when I'm about to get in front of people.

1. They aren't against you. Whether you're acting in a play, giving a tribute to a person at a birthday party, performing stand-up comedy, or even just sharing your ideas about something, people aren't against you. They are not looking at you hoping you will fail. Almost all the time, they are interested in what you're saying. They aren't looking for what you do wrong. They have an open mind. It's not uncommon after you've been in front of people to brood to yourself afterwards about how bad you did, and then find out that everyone loved it.

2. Usually, being a little nervous will help you on stage. This isn't with everyone, but with me it is certainly true, and I am not alone. Being a little afraid does help sometimes with being your best on stage. The reason is that when you're a little on your toes, you are alert. You want to do your best, and you are more likely to do well.

3. Being in front of people does not usually mean acting. As a rule of thumb, never try to promote a false persona in front of people unless what you're doing specifically calls for it. For instance, in a play, the whole point is being different. This is also the case in stand-up comedy, although there not as much. But remember--people, especially people who know you, will know if you're not being yourself on stage. So try to be yourself as much as you can!

4. You don't always have to plan everything. Spontaneity is often better than an elaborate plan. That's not to say you shouldn't plan anything. But give yourself a little room to move, to change, to think on stage. I know that I sometimes surprise myself with how I can think and change my plan a little on stage. I think that's likely true with many people. Of course, with acting, and sometimes with stand-up you want a good plan. But some informal things, like, say speaking at an open mike at a family gathering, are best done spontaneously. Trust yourself a little. You can do it!

The most important point is to trust yourself. It has a lot to do with self-image. You need to believe that you have something valuable to say, and that fifty, a hundred, or even two hundred people actually want to and should listen to what you have to say. Public speaking builds character. Just go for it.